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The many pathways to parenthood

LGBT+ team members show us that families may come in all shapes and sizes, but they all have one thing in common: love for each other.  
Tom Wall, Walgreens Stories
There’s more than one way to start a family.
For some straight couples, it can be fairly straightforward. But for Ashley Knezevich and her partner, deciding to have a baby was just the first of many, many steps.
Fostering, adoption, in vitro or in utero fertilization are among the alternatives for couples who cannot conceive – and for same-sex and other LGBT+ couples, it’s often just the start of a complicated journey to parenthood.
Knezevich’s story is one of success. Today, the principal of talent brand and communications for Walgreens has an even more important role: mom to 6-year-old twin girls. As part of our monthlong Pride celebration, LGBT+ team members at Walgreens share their varied and unique stories of becoming parents.

‘You’re going to be welcoming a third person into your relationship.’
Ashley Knezevich (back, right), Jocelyn and their twin daughters at their softball game. Both parents are also their coaches.

It wasn’t long after their civil union in 2013 that Knezevich and her partner Jocelyn decided they wanted to begin the process of starting a family. It was something they had both always wanted to do, so the “why” question was already answered. Now it was onto the “how?”
The couple decide to pursue in utero insemination (IUI), in which a sperm sample is placed directly into the uterus of the parent who will carry the pregnancy – in their case, Knezevich. The next big decision? Selecting a sperm donor.
“Since it was going to be my egg, and my DNA would be represented in that way, we wanted to make sure Jocelyn would be represented by the other half,” says Knezevich. “And so we had to look through this catalog of men and find ones who were taller, had dark hair, green eyes … you’re trying to find someone who looks like her, but you know it’s not her.”
Knezevich got pregnant on their very first try – a rare and lucky occurrence in the world of IUI. They were also delighted to find out they would be having twin girls. In July 2014, Harper and Holland were born, and the family was complete.
And that’s when things began to get complicated for the new parents.
A month before the girls were born, same-sex marriage became legal in the U.S., and they upgraded their civil union to a marriage so they could have both of their names on the babies’ birth certificates. But they learned that some states they’d be frequently visiting or traveling through to see family, such as Indiana and Ohio, may not recognize Jocelyn as a legal parent to the girls, since a birth certificate was not, they learned, a legally binding document.
The couple was also shocked to learn that Jocelyn would have to file to legally adopt her own daughters.
“Some of these states could potentially deny my wife the legal right to make decisions on our daughters’ behalf if something ever happened to me,” Knezevich explains. “They can’t deny an adoption record. It’s something we wouldn’t have to do in a heteronormative family situation, but we needed to protect her rights as their parent. So we did it, despite the added legal, procedural and financial burdens.”
Knezevich and Jocelyn have since divorced, but they remain amicable with each other – they both coach the girls’ softball team. They maintain a 50/50 custody split as they continue to co-parent their twin girls. The decision to have Jocelyn formally adopt the girls made such an arrangement possible. Both parents can remain involved in their daughters’ lives.
But there will always be another person involved: the donor. Knezevich isn’t sure when she will talk to her daughters about him, but she knows that she wants to be as honest as possible with them about how they came to be.
“When you’re a same-sex or LGBT+ couple, and you want to have a family, at some point you’re going to be welcoming a third person into your relationship,” says Knezevich. “Whether it’s a surrogate, a donor or the birth parents of an adopted child, there will always be an extra person involved. I am thankful for him, and he will always be there with us in some way.”

‘I’m looking for my wife in a vial.’
Beth Williams (right) with her wife, Cassie, and daughter, Addison.

Beth Williams, Walgreens store manager in Tampa, Fla., always wanted a family – she just didn’t think that meant she wanted to have kids, at least in what she was told was the traditional way.
“When I was younger, I always presented as more of a tomboy,” she says. “I think that’s what kept me questioning my sexuality, at least throughout my younger years.”
As she got older, discovered more about her identity and sexuality, and started seeing positive family role models with different sexual backgrounds, she became more and more open to the idea that she would be able to start a family one day. So when she met Cassie, her now wife, in 2008, and learned she wanted to have kids, Williams decided to make that happen however they could.
At first, they tried direct artificial insemination – known colloquially as the “turkey baster method.” But despite success stories from friends that had inspired them to try, multiple unsuccessful attempts caused them to push pause on starting a family for a few more years.
In 2015, the couple was in a good spot personally and professionally, and decided to try again. This time, using advice and a referral from a family friend, they pursued in utero insemination (IUI). One of the challenges they faced in using this method was that they had to find a sperm donor.
“Once we got all the boxes checked and we could start the process of trying to get pregnant, we sat down with a list of donor websites and found a donor who had the same visual appearance, hobbies, education level and other characteristics as my wife,” says Williams. “Basically, I’m looking for my wife in a vial.”
Williams and Cassie first tried IUI. However, after five failed attempts, they decided on in vitro fertilization (IVF), a method where an egg from one mother – in this case, Williams – is fertilized outside of the body with a sperm sample, and then transferred back into the uterus in embryo form.
The first IVF attempt was a success, and nine months later, on July 18, 2018, Williams and Cassie welcomed their daughter, Addison, into the world.
“The process from there was a pretty typical one,” says Williams. “My wife works for the hospital we decided to use, so we were familiar with everyone who cared for us, and they were all supportive.”
The only part of the process, Williams recalls, that strayed from “the norm,” was when Addison was born. Williams and Cassie were both invited to sign the birth certificate, but Cassie had to sign under the “father” section, with no option available at that time for a second parent, regardless of gender identity.
But for anyone who meets Addison, there’s little question who her parents are.
“Addison is a perfect combination of the two of us,” says Williams. “I’m not sure how it happened, but she looks exactly like me, and acts exactly like my wife. She’s a mini-me who acts like a mini-her.”
They are still deciding if, how and when they want to discuss the story with their daughter, and how much they would want to share about her donor. But in the meantime, Williams and Cassie are getting ready to try again soon, this time through IUI, to have a sibling – and this time, Cassie is going to carry the pregnancy.
“We were going to use the same donor as last time, but he’s no longer available,” explains Williams. “So now we want to find one who matches my looks and personality a bit more. Now we have to find Beth in a vial.”

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